Wednesday, August 16, 2017
Sunday, July 16, 2017
I see many people struggling to forgive an move on.
This, for me, has been the key to forgiving. It's not easy, and it's not quick. It's a process. Your mileage may vary:
Various religions and approaches are not the point.
The point is to spend time in quiet, without effort.
Observe the thoughts that arise on their own (not the hey, my back itches, but the he's incompetent and taking me down, or she really hurt me, or even the fears and fantasies ) and then work to understand those thoughts.
Those thoughts are YOU.
You won't like what you see, because you're not nearly as good as you imagine. You've got power issues. You've got control issues. You don't follow the standards of purity and love and kindness that you expect of others.
It's important to place no value judgements - you'll never get through it if you view it as good or bad, for now, it simply IS.
So, how does this help with forgiveness?
In time, you'll come to see yourself for what you really are, in the brutal, honest light of reality, rather than what you want to be, or colored by delusions, intentions, and preconceptions.
Seeing yourself clearly in this way will allow you to see other people for what they are rather than what you want them to be, or think they should be.
When you see others clearly, forgiving them becomes at first easy, and ultimately unnecessary. They simply ARE. People are neither fundamentally good, nor fundamentally bad; people are fundamentally people, driven by impulses both benevolent and selfish, using gifts and overcoming challenges, and trying to get through their day.
Thursday, May 25, 2017
She talked about the stunned feeling, and the sense of senselessness. She talked the rage that welled up within her at the utter unfairness of it, and the bottomless despair.
In trying to find her way down this path, she at some point had a sort of WWJD moment. Remembering what the head of her order had said, and what the great spiritual leaders would do.
And it came to her like a bolt of lightning: In all situations, be kind.
She has cancer. She's going to die. Soon. What is she going to do?
She is going to strive at all times to be kind.
She is going to be kind to the people who giver her chemo, and be kind to the people who are uncomfortable around her because of her diagnosis and her mortality. She is going to be kind to the people who love her, and are hurting with her, and already beginning to mourn her even as she lingers with them.
She is going to be kind even in these depths of despair. She is going to be kind through tears and pain, and as she lays in her final moments, as this precious life is taken from her in a way that is unspeakably senseless and bewildering cruel, she is going to be kind.
I can only hope to to be like her, someday.
It's so easy to look at the outrages around us and to despair. I don't know that I think that's avoidable, anymore.
But, as Almighty God gives me strength, in all situations, may I never forget to be kind.